Well, it’s been a while eh? Didn’t mean for that one to happen, but somewhere in between this post and my last one Thanksgiving, work, getting sick and life in general, happened. But, enough with the excuses that seem to preface every one of my blog posts lately.
As I’ve eluded to in previous posts, there is a fairly good chance that we have to move again. It’s not for sure yet, and we’re really praying and hoping that we get to stay, but we’re also realistic enough to realize that we should probably on some level plan on moving, just in case.
To catch you up to speed, I’ve compiled a list of FAQ’s surrounding this whole situation. So, without further ado:
Ummm, what? Didn’t you guys JUST move there?
Yes, yes we did. Well, in March. Our landlords are needing to sell their house because a year ago, they had put a deposit on another new property and can’t get out of that agreement.
But wait…didn’t you like JUST get settled?
Why yes, in fact we did. It took us a while to really get settled, because when we moved in March, life was more than a little bit hectic. We didn’t even have furniture for the first 6 weeks of living here. Actually, because we’re so on the ball, we still have stuff to unpack. You can be assured that we sure as heck WON’T be unpacking it now.
But I’m confused. I could have sworn because of a flood in February, that you JUST moved not that long ago….am I confusing that fact with what you’re saying now….or do you really have to move again?
(ok, so I admit, people haven’t really asked us that blatant of a question…but are you sensing my frustration with the reality of how often we seem to have to move?)
So, how’s it all going?
Well, not so great. Ben and I waffle between being ok with things and realizing that God is in control, to being SO frustrated at the whole thing. We DO NOT want to move again. We DON’T like keeping our apartment clean at all times in case people want to come see it. We get really bitter every time the real estate agent tells us there’s a showing so we have to leave our own apartment. (Especially when there are SIX HOUR SHOWINGS on a Saturday). Last time I checked, we weren’t paying our landlords $950 for them to be able to tell us when we can and can’t be in our own place. Especially when at the end of the whole ordeal we’ll just be homeless.
So, what I’m hearing is… you don’t want to move?
There are probably about 84 things I’d rather do than pack up my stuff, and move.
Hey! I just had a genius idea. Why don’t YOU just buy the whole house?
Umm, let’s do a little math here mmmmmk?
The house we live in = $649, 900
Ben and Karmyn’s salaries combined = WAY WAY LESS than $649,900
Is there any way you can stay?
Yes. We are praying we get to. The most realistic way this could happen is if the people who buy the house want to keep us. You know, like pets. Pets that pay them to live in their basement. We’re doing our best to look real cute and pathetic when people come through the house. And I’ve been sure to let everyone know that Ben is house broken, so there won’t be any “accidents”. The other option is if the house doesn’t sell, our landlords might try and make something work with their other place instead.
So, there you have it. the latest and greatest on our situation. I realize that I need to qualify the overt grumpiness that I just spewed into this blog post:
- I KNOW I actually have no right to complain. I should BE so lucky that I even have a place to complain about right? We are SO ridiculously blessed and have so much more than we need.
- Our landlords are really great people. They’re stuck just as much as we are, and they have been so gracious through this whole thing. Although we’re grumpy about everything, we’re trying really hard not to be grumpy AT them.
- God has, is and always will be in control. We’re praying that we get to stay -but whatever the outcome, it’s part of God’s plan for us and really is the best thing for us.
I would be lying if I said that this has been my favourite ordeal, but as of right now, we still have a place to live and no offers have been made on the house yet, so we’ll be fine for at least another couple of weeks. I’ll keep you all posted on how things go.
5 responses so far ↓
Sheena // October 20, 2009 at 3:04 pm |
Oh Karm… I know EXACTLY how you feel. I HATE the feeling of uncertainty! Now that I am (sort of) on the other side, I still find myself hesitant to unpack for fear of our landlord calling and saying “just Joking, we want to offer the house to bunny rabbit that hops around in the backyard, so you are gonna have to move”…
You have said this to me time and again and are living proof that its true, but here it is from me: God’s got it… and though we see many other peoplewho seem to have it a heck of a lot easier than us… there is a reason he chose us to endure this situation.
To be completely honest not many people have been blessed with charm, wit and good looks like we have, so who are we to complain
I love you, and am praying for you both.
Sarah // October 20, 2009 at 11:16 pm |
Hang in there Karmyn! I hope you guys get to stay – but you’re right, who knows, maybe God has some awesome condo he wants you guys to live in for ridiculously cheap rent or something. I’ll pray that he helps make this whole thing go as smoothly as possible for you guys! xox
ashamelessagitator // October 25, 2009 at 10:18 pm |
Move to Hamilton!!
Kimbal // November 6, 2009 at 11:50 pm |
I understand what its like to move all too well. I live in Australia and come from a middle calss upbringing. I am now 50 yo. For the first 20 years of my life I was stable and never moved. When I left home with my first wife in 1982 we rented and moved a few times. we never had any magor issue and always had support to assit in moving. I also had a good job. When I finally bought a place about 10 years ago with my 2nd wife and 4 kids, I was in it for about 12 months and was then divorced. the police pushed me out of the family home, leaving me to sleep on the couch at a friends place. That same friend has still the same wife and home as he did when I was thrown out of the marriage. I had two homes in my 2nd marriage, one large NEW house with no equity and our older home used as an investement rental property. My ex wife got both because she had the kids and bought the rental house into the marriage. That left me with no where to live. I moved into my mothers place soon after with my new girlfriend who had to sell her house for her divorce settlement, again with no equity for the same reason. We moved interstate and had post traumatic stress from the marriage breakups. It left me out of work, which is still ongoing. Now 10 years later I still can’t find stable fulltime work and still have to rent. My partner, her 2 kids and I were in emergency housing twice in 2005 under the Salavation Army. We’ve been on anti depressants and under a psychologist for some time. We have moved 22 times in an 8 year period and keep getting evicted because we can’t pay the rent and get stable employment. The problem leaves us with a bad rental history, which is out of my control. I live out of a box literally but have to hold onto stuff for work or my own needs. Life is not working for us and nothing seems to rectify the situation. It all comes down to having insufficient money.
Kimbal // November 7, 2009 at 12:14 am |
I might add – when we move, it can cost’s upwards of $3,000 dollars to move. 4 weeks rent as a bond, 2-4 weeks rent in adavance and at least $1,000 dollars to hire truck and maybe some support assistance to move our belongings, as well as hook up fees for electricity and phone, buy fuel for the car and truck, fast food for the family while we have no functional kitchen for few days, and pain killers for our throbbing backs and muscles.
We are not doing this for fun, but survival.
All we want is our own home. At 50y.o that is impossible if you have insufficient or no income and no years left in ones life to pay off another 20-30 year mortgage.
There are times when burning the rental home down would be better because if we went to jail we would have a stable roof over our heads for at least 5 years.
A recent situation in Australia was an old man was evicted form his rental property because they put up the rent. On a small pension it was not possible to get another place the same cost.
As a result he went into the realestate agent and blew her away witha gun at point blank range. The problem was, he shot the wrong girl as the rental manager just happen to have the day off when he came in. So I really understand his stress.
Rents now in Australia are heading towards $500 dollars a week for a reasonable house. Tha average wage is $480 a week after tax. Any less in rent and its a dump, unfit for human habitation in many cases or jsut not suiatbel for ones living, leaving you depressed and angry with life.
Land Lords skimp on maintenace and jack up the rent every time the bank puts up interest rates or they want to sell and cash in on the property market. We have no suervices in australia to help the homeless and single men and families who care about people in our situation. the goverenmnet privatises it all out and the companies never have aeneough funds to go arround. yet in relaity there are dozens of EMPTY rental houses in the suburbs with no one living in them for months on end, because they are over priced on the rental market. Electricity and water are still connected, often with furniture and other semi valuables inside.
This means only one reason for all of the above problems – HUMAN GREED !